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Sunday, August 8, 2010

Blessed #8

The other day I was talking to a friend of mine that happens to be a single mom. She was talking about how hard it is to take care of a 2 year old alone. That got me to thinking. Sometimes I complain about taking care of King and how he's driving me crazy but I am so lucky to have his dad be a constant part of our life.



The mister has been here from the start. Although I sometimes say he doesn't do enough I must admit that the best thing he could do was be there. The mister and King have the most loving relationship of all.



Every time we come home King is excited when he sees his dads car. He jumps out of the car and says "Daddy's Home!" As we walk into the house the first thing he does is look around the house to find his dad so they can talk about their day. Although this maybe small to some, it is the most amazing feeling in the world. Now a days there are so many single parents in the world. And I couldn't imagine raising my children alone. The mister is the best father and provider I know. I am so Blessed to have him and so happy that my children have him in their life.

Saturday, August 7, 2010

Curfew #7

cur·few   /ˈkɜrfyu/ Show Spelled[kur-fyoo] Show IPA
–noun
1. an order establishing a specific time in the evening after which certain regulations apply, esp. that no civilians or other specified group of unauthorized persons may be outdoors or that places of public assembly must be closed.
2. a regulation requiring a person to be home at a certain prescribed time, as imposed by a parent on a child.
3. the time at which a daily curfew starts.
4. the period during which a curfew is in effect.
5. a signal, usually made with a bell, announcing the start of the time of restrictions under a curfew.
6. a bell for sounding a curfew.
7. (in medieval Europe) the ringing of a bell at a fixed hour in the evening as a signal for covering or extinguishing fires.
8. a metal cover for shielding a banked or unattended fire.

As an adult, we all feel as if we don't have to answer to anyone. That we can come and go as we please. But my question is this, When you are in a committed relationship with someone and you live together, should you have a curfew? Is it ok to come and go as you please? Is it ok to come in after the sun is up?

I will not necessarily say that you should have a curfew because you are an adult and you know what's right and wrong. But when you live with someone, you must respect them enough to come home at a decent hour. If the sun beats you home, we have a problem. Not only that, if the shoe was on the other foot you would not be too happy about it.

Do unto others as you would have them due unto you!!

Friday, August 6, 2010

Models #6

In middle school I was really tall and skinny. And because of that, I wanted to become a model. My mother signed me up for Barbizion Modeling. My cousin and I use to go every Saturday to practice being a model. We learned how to walk the run way and pose like mannequins. We also learned to have proper posture which I really needed. Because I use to let my height get the best of me. While attending these modeling classes, my mother spent lots of money in hopes of me really getting a shot like Kimora Lee Simmons. That shot never came and my mother was done with them ripping her off every weekend.
After that experience I got more involved in sports. I began to run track, cheer and dance. And I loved it. It was actually more fun than modeling. It also made me more toned so I wasn't this tall and skinny chick anymore.
Once I got to college the modeling opportunities showed there face again. At FAMU, they have several different modeling troupes which are really good. But for some reason I decided to stick to dancing.
As I look back on my modeling experience and see how these chicks out here today that claim to be models, I realize that industry is not for me. Now a days as long as you take some sexy lingerie pictures you are a model. O_O WTH if that is the case than everyone is a model. What happened to having pure beauty? Just because a man ask you to take half naked pictures of you, it does not make you a model.
I am so happy that I didn't get caught up in that life style. Because so many chicks are being taken advantage of just wishing for that big break. Being the next Tyra Banks or Kimora is most little girls dream but if every photo shoot you are naked, that won't be you. Woman need to understand that you don't have to be naked to be sexy. Leaving something to the imagination is sexier than putting it all out there. So if you are reading the post and you inspire to be a model, I hope that you are not allowing anyone to take half naked pictures of you in hopes of becoming the next big thing. Because all you might every be is Ludacris next video girl.

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Unexpected #5


During our Valentine's trip we had a blast. Life was great and we did not care about anything. We made love all weekend and forgot the condoms.... It was just that serious. Not once did either one of us stop and think that it was possible for us to conceive a child with all this love making and no protection. That was not on our minds because we were the happiest people in the world. Nothing around us mattered... Not even using protection.
That was until the drive home. I looked over at the mister
Me: Babe we are tripping.
Him: What are you talking about?
Me: All weekend we made love with no protection like we are ready to have another child.
He looks at me with the Oh Shit look!
Me: When we get home, I will stop to the pharmacy and pick up the Plan B.
Him: Ok cool.

We drove back home holding hands and talking about all the excitement from the weekend. We had a great time but missed King and was ready to pick him up. When we got home I ran to Walgreen's and purchased the Plan B. I took it as directed and went on with my life.
The mister and I were still on our honeymoon, even though we were back to reality. We made love every night and went on dates every weekend together. The only difference is we made sure we used protection because we weren't ready for another child. The plan was to purchase a new house and then get married fall of 2011. That would give us enough time to save for both.
Well a month after the engagement, I began to cramp really bad and got my monthly visitor. But this time something was different about it. So something told me to take a pregnancy test. And low and behold it was positive.

I cried and I cried because this was not part of the plan. We were not ready for another child. I was working on my sexy body for my wedding. I told the mister and he was excited. He wanted to have a little girl to make our family complete. Although I wasn't completely thrilled just seeing the excitement in his face made my heart smile and I knew everything would be ok. At that moment I accepted that we would have another child by the end of the year. What an engagement?

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

The Honeymoon #4

After the proposal in the Keys, the mister & I had a few drinks before we went back to our hotel. I called everyone I knew and told them the good news. I tweeted all my friends and updated my Facebook Status so that everyone knew I was soon to be Mrs. Williams. I was honestly the happiest woman alive.
After a couple of drinks we walked back to the hotel room holding hands and gazing into each others eyes. At that moment all was right with the world. We got to our room and the Honeymoon began. We began to kiss passionately before we could even close the door. Because we had been traveling all day I suggested we take a shower together. Once it the shower it was on and poppin. There was so much touching, and kissing and sucking and Oh yeah that other *ing too. LOL We were making sweet love.
It was so good I didn't even wear a shower cap & I actually let my hair get wet. LMAO
Once we got out of the shower I decided that I was gonna put on a show. Since it was Valentine's weekend I had went out and brought several pieces of lingerie before we got to the keys. And because this man just asked me to be his wife I wanted to show him a helluva good time. I put on my sexy red bra with the matching boy shorts. When I walked out into the room I knew he loved it. See my man is an ass man. He loves to see me in thongs & boy shorts.
I walk out into the room and his face lights up. So I ask him if he likes? He says of course then ask if he can take some pictures of me. Usually I would've put up a fight but this man just asked me to be his wife & we had been drinking too. I was like sure Daddy! Then I started to pose for him like this was a photo shoot for Playboy. Once we were done taking picture we got back down to business. We made love all night and day. Actually most of our trip was spent in that hotel room enjoying our engagement honeymoon.
We were so happy and so in love. Nothing else around us mattered. NOTHING at all. It was just the mister & I enjoying our life together and imagining how great our life would be once we were married.

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Hygiene #3

As a 28 year old I think that it is sad that I have to discuss Hygiene in one of my blog post. SMH I mean you would think that as an adult people would understand the importance of taking care of their personal hygiene by now. But no there is always someone somewhere who has no clue that they STANK!!! But how can you not know. I mean when I workout I can smell that I need to run home & jump in the shower. So what's wrong with their sense of smell? You always smell yourself before anyone else does. Right?
I am 12 weeks pregnant so that means I'm in and out of the bathroom a whole lot. I think I spend more time in the bathroom than I do anywhere else. LOL Well yesterday I walked in and almost died. I mean I smelled something so awful I thought that someone had died in one of the bathroom stalls and their body was decomposing. But no one was there. The bathroom was empty.



Of course I couldn't use that bathroom with it smelling like that so I walked all the way down the hall to the other one. As I walked I began to wonder... How is it that a person can have body odor so strong that the smell is still there after you leave? How could you not smell that yourself? Why is it that I have to die because they are too lazy to wash they nasty ass on a regular?
I mean seriously when you smell like something went up inside of you and died you need to go to the doctor asap. That is not normal. You are sick and they need to help you from the inside out.
When I got the the other bathroom it was a little better. I walked down to the handicap stall because I like to have some room when I go. #dontjudgeme When I walked in I knew that the person that was in there before me was on their monthly and has not drank water for over a year. SMH oh Lawd why me? Again for the life of me I don't understand how they miss these smells themselves. I know that my sense of smell is heighten because I am pregnant but damn I know they smell this stuff too.
As women we need to learn to take better care of ourselves.



1. There is no reason why you should not take a bath at least once a day. Trust me its even better if you bathe even more than that. No one will complain about how many baths you take.
2. Also they sell so many feminine products that will help reduce some of those smells that your body may have. Don't be afraid to use them. They were made to help you.



3. I know that the doctors don't want you to Douche but hell if you have an odor that won't go away you may want to grab you a Vinegar and water Douche and start your cleansing. I wouldn't suggest you do it all the time but once every 2-3 months should be fine. Or as needed.



4. Start eating healthy and drinking water. You will be amazed at what a difference this will make with your body odor. Water is great for you and it really helps to cleanse your body. So drink your 8 glasses a day.

5. Be careful who you sleep with and make sure you get tested. Some of these odors can come from STDs. If you lay down with a dog you will get fleas. So protect yourself.



This is your body and your personal hygiene is very important. There is not excuse that anyone should smell the way that I described earlier in my post. Your body is a temple so you should treat it as such.

Monday, August 2, 2010

Poor Work Ethics #2




I must admit I have the worst work ethics ever. My current job is my first serious job and I have been here for 3 years & 3 months. Can we say that I do not take this job serious at all. This is really bad because when I get another job, which I am anxiously looking. They will not let me do half of the things that I do at my current job.
Maybe I should explain myself a little more when I say I have poor work ethics... When I am at work, I work hard. My numbers are great and I am one of the top agents they have. But my downfall is showing up. Whenever I don't want to be bothered I don't come in. And if I'm just being lazy, I show up late.
I know this is unacceptable but I do it because they allow me too. I really want to get out of these bad habits but it is hard when at this point I don't care. I hate my job but it pays the bills. So I guess I have to suck it up and do better from now on.
So today I will take on another challenge. I will do better when it comes to work. For the month of August, I will come to work, show up on time and work my entire shift! I believe that I can complete this challenge as well. Keeps my fingers cross. LOL
Have a Happy Monday & Stay Blessed & Productive.

Sunday, August 1, 2010

The Wedding #1

If you all recall on February 13th, the mister proposed to me. It was one of the best days of my life. I was on my way to becoming Mrs. Williams. Before the proposal I had my wedding all planned out. We were getting married at Sunset on Miami Beach. Then having big reception/party with all our family and friends.




Well once the reality set in that I will actually get the chance to plan the perfect wedding, I realized my plans have changed drastically. I no longer want to get married on the beach. The idea of having sand between my toes in my beautiful wedding dress just does not tickle my pickle. Not only that, a beach wedding is very casual & I am way to saddity for that. I need my guest to be dressed like this is the prom. I need everything to be formal, except my Groom & groomsmen shoes. *They are wearing Converse. LOL Don't judge me!* I am not the Cinderella kind of Bride but I really need things to be as formal as possible.

Then comes the guestlist.... My family is huge! My grandmother has 11 kids & all of them have 2 or more kids. Can we say grandma & grandpa were busy? LOL No but seriously just my family alone was about 100 people. Then all of my close friends. My guestlist was at about 150 people by myself. Damn! Of course I can't forget the misters family & friends. Although most of his family is in Dominica we still want to atleast invite them. So his list is at about 100 people. That brings our guestlist to about 250 people. O_O Let's do the math. Since I am saddity & want only the best most of the reception venues I like charge about $75-$100 a plate. For 250 plates, that's ranges from $18,750 to $25,000. This does not include all the other charges they add on just to get your money.



So what's a girl to do? How do I get my guestlist down from 250-150 people without hurting anyones feelings? Is it a good idea to elope? How about a destination wedding? That is sure to cut the guestlist down. But do we really want to leave so many people out of our big day? How about just going to the Justice of the Peace and handling it there? Planning this weddng is getting to be a bit much. But thank God I have over a year to plan it. Let's see what happens from here.



The Challenge




"Accept the challenges so that you can feel the exhilaration of victory. -- George S. Patton"


Yours truly has been issued a challenge by one of my faves:

Starrla Monae

to post one blog a day for the month of August....
Oh my this will be hard because I work 12 hour shifts & sometimes I can't even remember my name let alone to post a blog but I will try my best. This should be fun because everyday something exciting happens in my life & I am always dying to share but I never find the time. But this month I will so sit back & enjoy!